Defense are away from that person and lets say

Defense mechanisms, we all have them.  We use them to protect ourselves from getting
hurt or even being embarrassed.  However,
there are a plethora of different version and ways that we can use defense
mechanisms.

            Repression is an example of a self-defense
mechanism, it revolves around hiding or repressing traumatic memories that we
may have endured. If someone suffered abuse as a child, they will repress the
memory of that, their brain will literally help them forget that it
happened.  However, the will have a hard
time forming relationships, even though they may not know why. It’s our minds
way of protecting our self-image, by creating a bubble around the person and keeps
them from the traumatic thoughts that would be occurring if they remembered the
abuse. Another example is displacement. 
Displacement is a self-defense that shifts or displaces aggressive behaviors
and changes them or represents them in a way that is not so off putting.  It allows you to deflect negative feelings,
which can enhance your self-image. An example of this would be if you were let’s
say feeling angry at someone, instead of yelling at them or striking them out
of anger, you hold it in and once you are away from that person and lets say
you punch a wall, this is an example of displacement. 

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Then there is
the classic one that everyone thinks of normally right off the bat, denial.  Denial is the absolute udder refusal to
believe that something is true.  This
form helps to protect your self-image like repression, by shielding you from
any bad or negative thoughts. An example of denial is the loss of a close
family member, like a mother or a brother. 
People tend to act like they are ok, because they have not nor do they want
to accept that, that person is gone.  They
act as if everything is still ok and will even avoid conversations which may
take a negative direction that may cause them to admit the truth.   Then
there is reaction formation, which is very similar to displacement in it
protects you, however instead of punching the wall, and acting on impulse, you
maybe go for a walk or sit and talk to someone until an alternative solution
can be thought of. It allows us to react in a way that is opposite of the true
emotions we are feeling.

Then there is
projection, which is when you ignore your own flaws, yet you point out or
attempt to blame the exact same flaws in others.  It’s a form of protection for yourself, it
takes the focus off of you and places it on others.  An example of this would be a man is having
an affair, however out of guilt he projects his bad behavior on to his wife and
begins to accuse her of having an affair. 
Then the last example is rationalization, which generally occurs when
something happens that we find difficult to accept.  When this happens, we tend to make up an
excuse or reason as to why we behaved the way we did or reacted in the way that
we did.  An example of this would be
applying to a university or college and not getting accepted however telling
people you did not want to go there anyway. 

So
there are many different ways that we use defenses to help protect ourselves or
rather the perception of who we are.  Some
protect us by blocking thoughts, some give us the perception to others that we aren’t
flawed like we may think they think we are, and some help us take the pressure off
guilt we may be feeling by placing it on others.  While we all do these things, being somewhat cognizant
of when we are doing them may be able to help us grow as individuals by facing
our issues.