Family assistance is an indispensablepart of palliative care. However, for all people, including the family of my client,it was difficult to go through the death of their close relative. It meant thatall health care professional had to support the family who had lost their relative.The family of my client needed a lot of support.
I saw Petrova’s relativessuffering and agonizing a lot about their loss. Even though the death waspredicted by doctors and the family knew about it, when Petrova died, at first,the family could not deal with it. They were confused, baffled and had no ideawhat to do. As a result, a help od professional psychologist needed. The psychologistcould calm the family down and explain that this process was quite natural.
I,along with other professionals also tried to support them. Then the family realizedeverything and could think about their future without Petrova. They became lessstressed, more emotionally stable and calmer. On the other hand, it seemed tome that they we still confused by the situation and needed more professional help.
There are different periodsafter the loss of a family member. As I have seen the situation, my client’sfamily had gone through all of these stages smoothly. However, the one of theclose relatives got stuck on the first stage and found it difficult to move on.
It was Petrova’s daughter. She was agonizing for a long period of time. That’s whyshe needed additional psychological assistance. It goes without saying that thedeath of the closest relative was one of the most terrible events in her life. Idid my best to find proper words to alleviate her terrible conditions. All otherhealth care professionals who had worked with my client also aided the daughterduring that challenging time of her life. With time, she could accept it andbut there was still a residue of sadness and sorrow.
As I have noticed during mywork in the hospice, the grieving relatives of Mrs. Petrova had differentconditions. As I have mentioned above, the daughter was the most vulnerableone, suffering more than others for a long period of time. When I was talking toher trying to calm her down, she told me that her mother was very important toher, she spent lots of time with her and there was a strong bond between them. For that reason, the relativedecided to resort to bereavement counselling.
The importance of this method isundisputable. After psychological support the daughter of Mrs. Petrova relievedfrom bad thoughts and feelings. It also helped her to rethink everything andcontinue living despite the death of Petrova. All grieving relatives went through this kindof counselling and, later on, it was clearly seen that the situation in thefamily was stabilizing in a gradual way and all of them could put up with itthinking about the future and seeing new opportunities of living withoutPetrova in their lives.